Every family surely wants a family condition in harmony. A harmonious family is a family that can carry out its functions well. Of course, to be able to achieve a harmonious family requires a lot of effort and sacrifice. With the formation of a harmonious family, a person will feel comfortable when he feels he is around his family. But sometimes conflicts often occur in a family. Not infrequently the conflict also causes tenuous relationships between families so that the family is not harmonious. Especially if the conflict is left unchecked and not handled properly. Of course, the problem of conflict in the family can get worse every time. Therefore, effective conflict management is needed in dealing with family conflicts. One way is to do a counseling. Because this conflict is a group, therefore counseling is also carried out in groups. By doing good conflict management between family members, it is hoped that each family member will also be able to take their respective roles in resolving conflicts within their family.

According to Golden and Sherwood (in Latipun, 200) family counseling is a method designed and focused on family problems in an effort to help solve the client’s personal problems. This problem is basically personal because it is experienced by the client himself. However, the counselor considers the problems experienced by the client are not solely caused by the client himself but are influenced by the system contained in the client’s family so that the family is expected to participate in exploring and solving client problems. Family counseling views the family that the problems experienced by a family member will be effectively overcome if it involves other family members. Family counseling aims to help family members learn and understand that family dynamics are the result of the influence of family members’ relationships. Helping family members to accept the fact that if one family member has a problem, it will affect the perceptions, expectations, and interactions of other family members. Strive (in counseling), so that family members can grow and develop in order to achieve balance and harmony. Develop a sense of respect from all family members towards other family members.

Crane (in Latipun, 2001) who defines family counseling as a training process that is focused on the client’s parents as the most influential person in establishing the system in the family. This is done not to change the personality or character of the family members involved, but to change the family system through changing the behavior of parents. If the behavior of parents changes it will affect the members in the family, so that the purpose of the description is that parents need help in determining the direction of behavior of their family members.

Basically family counseling is carried out on individual family members as part of the family system. The implication of the client in family counseling is that each member of the family and the family as a unified system. The approach used is an individual approach in the sense that family problems are seen or perceived, understood from the individual aspect and a systems approach in the sense that family problems are seen as a family system problem. Helpful relationships are relationships based on the need to obtain help and provide assistance to others. . The requirements that must be met in order to establish a helpful relationship are readiness and willingness to provide assistance, client trust in the provider of assistance, mutual respect, mutual understanding and cooperation. The involvement of all family members to be involved in counseling activities is a goal that must be achieved in a helpful relationship.

The goal to be achieved through family counseling activities is to encourage each family member to be able to make decisions, change behavior and develop an atmosphere of family life so that the family constellation functions as a whole, increases family resilience and develops potential both as individuals and as family members. By understanding good conflict management, it is hoped that any conflict in the family can be handled effectively by every family member. With good conflict management too, a family will be able to become a perfect system. Therefore, family counseling is important and needed if it is felt that the conflict that a family is going through has started to interfere and requires professional help.

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