Children are a gift from God to every parent. Of course all parents want their children to remain in a safe place and condition. Not infrequently, many parents take care of their children to the maximum to ensure the safety of their children. All these things are done because parents naturally have the instinct to take care of their children and as a form of affection for their children. However, it is often found that there are still many parents who express their love for their children in the wrong way, this makes a child feel physically, emotionally and psychologically. Sunarti in Sufiatun (2021) argues that the behavior of parents who do not care, ignore and reject the presence of children can be recognized through their words and actions towards their children, for example criticizing, directing, ordering. Parenting patterns of parents who use good methods, then children will grow in a good way too, if parents educate children in a way that is not good, then the impact on children will also grow less well, both in terms of body shape, behavior and so on. These inappropriate ways can be called toxic parenting.

Previously, Toxic was a term for people who have a personality who likes to be troublesome, harming others, both physically and emotionally, as well as verbally and non-verbally, but rather interpreted as a person who gives the same negative effect as poison, and bring bad influence that can destroy a person’s mood. Meanwhile, toxic parents themselves are parents who do not respect and treat their children well as individuals. They can commit a variety of violence on children and even make their psychological condition or mental health disturbed. Toxic parents are also reluctant to compromise, take responsibility, or apologize to their children. This is often done by parents who have mental disorders or are addicts.

According to (Indrawati, Endang et al., 2014) toxic families have long-term effects for children, especially on the psychological side which can lead to trauma. What’s more, this trauma has the potential to apply this toxic lifestyle to the family that this child will build in the future. On the other hand, there are still some effects of toxic parents on children, including a child can become stressed and experience anxiety and have low self-confidence. This happens because parenting causes poor communication between children and parents. This condition makes the child less comfortable to express feelings or does not get optimal attention, and is caused by parents who always control the decisions for their children.

Therefore, it is important for all people, both parents, teaching staff, students to understand good parenting so that a child can grow and develop optimally without any significant disturbances in his life. Because in truth, wise adults grow from good parenting as well.

Reference:

Ditha Savitri Iskandar, – (2021) DAMPAK POLA ASUH TOXIC PARENTS DALAM PEMBENTUKAN IDENTITAS DIRI REMAJA (STUDI PADA REMAJA DI KABUPATEN BOGOR). S1 thesis, Universitas Pendidikan Indonesia.

HS, Hussein Abdurrohman (2021) Analisis Yuridis Perlindungan Hukum Terhadap Anak Yang Mengalami Toxic Parenting Menurut Kompilasi Hukum Islam dan Undang-undang No 35 Tahun 2014 Tentang Perlindungan Anak (Studi Kasus Desa Marindal I Kec. Patumbak Kab. Deli Serdang). Skripsi thesis, Universitas Islam Negeri Sumatera Utara.

Rianti, & Ahmad Dahlan. (2022). Karakteristik Toxic Parenting Anak dalam Keluarga. DIAJAR: Jurnal Pendidikan Dan Pembelajaran, 1(2), 190–196. https://doi.org/10.54259/diajar.v1i2.742

Rifani, Fikri Muhammad (2021) POLA KOMUNIKASI ANAK MUDA DI BANJARMASIN TIMUR DALAM MENYIKAPI TOXIC PARENTS TERHADAP DAMPAK KEPERCAYAAN DIRI. Diploma thesis, Universitas Islam Kalimantan MAB.

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